Alcohol coaching
What it is and how it works
Plain English, no pressure, and no predetermined programme.
What alcohol coaching actually is
Alcohol coaching is a supportive partnership that helps you explore your relationship with alcohol, identify what matters to you and work towards changes that you choose for yourself.
I'm not here to diagnose you, prescribe treatment or tell you what recovery should look like. Coaching isn't therapy or medical treatment, and it sits alongside professional care when you need it.
Please read this. If you may be physically dependent on alcohol, speak to your GP before you stop suddenly, because withdrawal can be dangerous and in some cases life threatening. I will always encourage a GP check in, and where it makes sense I will point you towards other support too.
Your first conversation
What happens in a session
People can be reluctant to book something they don't understand, so here it is. A first conversation might explore what brought you to Undrinking, what you want to change, what you've already tried and what support might be useful.
You will do most of the talking. That's how coaching works best.
- No lectures
- No compulsory labels
- No predetermined recovery programme
- No pressure to follow my route
Pricing
Start here
Free taster call
Free
30 minutes. We talk about where you are and see whether this feels right, with no obligation.
Ongoing
Coaching session
£49
60 minutes, by video or phone. I'll explain how payment and cancellation work when you book, so there are no surprises.
The Undrinking mindset
Things I used to believe about alcohol
Unlearning starts with looking at the beliefs we carry. Here are a few of mine, and a different question to ask about each.
"Alcohol helps me relax."
A different question
Was I relaxing, or temporarily relieving the discomfort alcohol had become part of?
"Drinking makes social occasions better."
A different question
Was the evening really better, or was I just more comfortable doing what everyone else was doing?
"I've earned it."
A different question
Was it a reward, or a routine I had dressed up as one?
"I can stop whenever I want."
A different question
If it was truly that easy, why did I keep needing to tell myself so?
The conversation I wish somebody had with me
Questions worth asking yourself
Rather than telling you how to stop drinking, I would like to ask what I wish someone had asked me years ago.
- What do you actually enjoy about drinking?
- What do you think alcohol gives you?
- What does it take away?
- If you could remove alcohol from your life without feeling you were sacrificing anything, would you?
That last question is where my own change really began. I stopped seeing alcohol as something valuable that I was being forced to surrender.
How I work
Five things you can count on
No labels
You don't have to call yourself anything. We start with your life and your questions, not a diagnosis.
Your decision
I will never push you towards my conclusion. You decide what changes, and when.
Honest conversation
I'll say what I see, kindly, and I'll ask before I assume. You get the truth, not a script.
Beyond the drink
Putting it down is the small part. We spend our time on the evenings, the stress and the identity that come after.
Private and steady
What you tell me stays with me. I turn up when I say I will, and I stay in my lane, so I'll point you to your GP or other help when that's what you need.
Who this is for
Undrinking is mainly for people who are questioning their relationship with alcohol. You might want to stop, cut down, or simply understand your drinking better. Many people do decide to stop completely, but quitting doesn't have to be the default, and it is never a condition of working with me. This is a service to support you in this space, whatever you decide.
If you need or choose to abstain, I'll support you in that too.
Putting down the drink is the small change
Stopping drinking is a very small change in itself. The harder part is often what comes after. The evenings that used to revolve around a drink, the stress you used to manage with one, the social side, and how you see yourself. That's where much of the real work is, so that's where I put most of my focus.
Recovery is individual. I will never insist that you reach the same conclusion I did.
I'm currently training with the Recovery Coach Academy and working towards becoming a Recovery Coach Professional. I'm not yet certified, and you can read exactly where I am on my story page.
Confidentiality and safeguarding
What you tell me stays between us, with a few important limits. If I believed you or someone else was at serious risk of harm, or the law required it, I may need to share information. I will always explain this before we begin. You can read more on the privacy and confidentiality page.
I can't promise any specific outcome, and if you need clinical support I will help you find it.
Join the community
You don't have to do this alone. Connect with other people who are curious about life without alcohol.
Join the group